We Like Each Other
Our first post was written by one of our covenant members, Mary Rachel Fenrick. She blogs regularly at Finding Freedom.
Shortly before Christmas, our community group from church left the kiddos at home and went out for hibachi, drinks, and Christmas lights. There were 14 of us, all of various ages and in diverse stages of life.
We’re Just Friends
Somewhere in between the onion volcano and the catching-the-egg-in-the-top-of-the-hat trick (how do those guys do that?), our chef asked what we were celebrating.
“Nothing in particular,” said Gretchen. “We’re just friends.”
“Really? So how do all of you people know each other?” asked the chef.
“Church,” someone replied.
“Oh.” {I could almost literally see the wheels turning in this guy’s head.} “So you’re not celebrating anything, and you actually like being around each other?”
“Correct.”
“Hmm. You don’t hear that very often.”
Finding Unity Through Jesus
I’d have to agree. Sometimes I’m even shocked that an accumulation of such different individuals could not only get along, but want to spend time together.
Let’s be honest: Church people can be cheesy, annoying, judgmental Bible-beaters. With a few random exceptions, this was the perception I had of Christians for the majority of my life, until my husband and I reluctantly joined a small group at our old church and were pleasantly surprised to find something that contradicted all of our prejudices.
People were kind to us. We brought a big, turbulent mess to a group that had been flowing smoothly, and we were welcomed with open arms. Every week for a whole semester, someone from our group babysat so that we could have regular date nights. People threw wedding and baby showers for each other. Friends dropped off coffee or lunch to other group members’ workplaces, just because.
More than just caring for each other, though, perhaps the most stunning thing about that group was that people were normal. Yes, we all loved Jesus and tried to challenge each other toward being more like Him, but people had regular, secular jobs. We read good books, watched good movies, and had parties that were fun and not lame. Some families sent their children to public school, some to private school, and some homeschooled…and nobody cared what anybody else did or tried to change anyone’s mind about it. It was genuine and organic, and it was true community in, I think, one of the most unlikely places.
Andrew and I left that group about a year ago, not because we wanted to, but because we felt that it was important (and far more convenient) to do life in Norman, where we live. Doubting that we would ever find community in church people again, we drug our feet somewhat in joining another small group at our new church.
But, we did find community in church people again, so that’s twice now now that my expectations have been completely defied.
We found friendship in this rag-tag group of folks who consist of a realtor, a teacher, students, a school counselor, an interior designer, a campus pastor, stay-at-home moms, university employees, and artists. The youngest person in our group is four months, and the oldest is in her sixties. We eat hibachi, watch each other’s kids, have football watch parties, set up meal calendars for group members who are sick or busy, bring our chaos, and we invite other people to be part of this crazy thing we’ve got going…because we can…because, by the grace of this God who is seemingly all we have in common at times, we actually like each other.